Motivational Monday | Confident Decision Making


I pride myself of my ability to make decisions. I generally know what I want and what choices I need to make to get myself there. With that being said as I transition into adulthood and my life becomes terrifyingly my own. I make all my own decisions and experience all my own consequences. I know I'm not alone in this bizarre transition into adulthood, but it can be quite nerve wracking nonetheless, wouldn't you agree?

But I read something the other day that said "the more you love your decisions, the less you need others to love them." This immediately struck a chord with me. As I begin to make more and more of my own life choices, the more and more I become open to criticism and judgement from others. 

Like most, judgements from strangers, while annoying, don't really bother me. It's the criticisms from loved ones and friends that bury deep into you core and fester. When you make a big decision or choice, you want your friends and family to support you or to be proud of you. So when they come back with anything less than praise and love, it can hurt. But the more confidence and trust you put into your own decisions, the less and less those judgements will get to you. 

The more you learn to trust yourself, the less you will need others to reinforce your choices. It may seem silly or basic, but this is where my confidence has been wavering recently. And I know I'm not alone in this. 

So to myself, future Nikki and to anyone out there in the exact same boat, let's all remember to love our decisions, so we don't need others love them for us. 

-Nikki 



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